“I’m dying.” Is it True?

Recently a woman I know who is living with cancer told another woman she just met that she is dying. She has been living with cancer for 3+ years now and has many more days/months ahead of living her life.  I hadn’t questioned the belief of dying until I was at the 9 day Byron Katie School of The Work.  During one large group session a man stood up to tell Katie his story before doing The Work with her.  As a part of his introductory story, he said “My dad is dying.”  Katie interrupted him and asked, “Is it true? Is your dad dying?” He replied “Yes!” and then shared his father’s medical condition.  Katie responded, “We are either alive or we are not. In my experience people are living until they are not.” Katie then asked the man, “Is your dad dying?” After thoughtful contemplation he replied “No” and then continued with his story.

This was such a brief exchange but I found it profound. It inspired me to question my own idea of “dying” to discover that I agree with Katie. When I look at someone who tells me they are dying, I see a person who is alive and still full of life force. We are alive until we are not! About a year ago a good friend with terminal cancer said to me, “I need to get everything in order because I’m dying.” My response was, “You look very much alive to me!” And is it true, do we need to get everything in order? Is it possible to get all things in order?

What other beliefs do we carry that could be questioned? “She’s lazy.” “He should get a job.”  “I don’t have enough money.” What beliefs would you be willing to look at today?