A Dare to Be You Friendship!

 

Friendship is not about whom you have known the longest; it’s a discovery in the shared experience of another. We travel this life journey with a feeling; if not an acquired belief, that we are alone in our endeavors. Carrying vast libraries of experiences within our beings, we rush past each other to carry out our daily errands. While we are known by some, we hide from others. I think Henry Wadsworth Longfellow said it best. “If we could read the secret history of our enemies, we should find in each man’s life sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostility.”

 Friendship

The most profound friendships begin with a look into the eye of another and the discovery that they have been on a similar journey. I am always humbled by the realization that someone else has seen what I have seen or known aspects of my own journey when I thought I was unique in my travels.

 

This is why knowing another is such a profound treasure. It completes the reflection in the mirror of all time. It allows for the song of a sunset to be set free. It’s recognition of the soul of an artist reflected in her artwork. It allows for a sweet breath of fresh air to embrace all comprehension that we are not alone in our experiences. And all the while we may find along our life journey, a friend or two that may have been where we may have been and seen what we have seen. We must never stop foraging our own paths along our trails of discovery. For only by daring to ourselves we learn to truly connect with another being.

 

Anna Martinson, life coach at Leap of Faith, assists others in discerning their soul’s longing to BE. For more information please contact Anna at http://leapoffaithlifecoaching.com/about/.

 

A Life Worth Living

 

Open_Heart

Just for today I will… is an easier mantra to recite and uphold than deliberating about my flaws. In fact, I have begun to awake each day with this statement of action to build momentum towards that which I would like to build a foundational change. I realize that I am not suppose to be perfect; no one is but just for today I will trust myself enough to trust my own intuition.

 

Stop listening to negative thoughts! Life experience guarantees that we will attract that which becomes our focus. If your focus is to graduate from from a program however, your constant thought is: Am I worthy enough, Am I skilled enough…your vibratory thoughts contradict your desired intention. So, the question sits in the shadows waiting to be asked: How can one create a purpose driven life focused with desired intent?

Start with the small things in life that make life worth living! Build yourself up by defining your worth one step at a time. Trying to tackle it all at once often times becomes a wrestling match. Instead of beating yourself up realize that just for today is enough of a task to try something new. Allow yourself to open to small successes each day knowing that with time you will begin to try on a new definition of self worth.

Anna Martinson, life coach at Leap of Faith, assists others in discerning their soul’s longing to BE. For more information please contact Anna at http://leapoffaithlifecoaching.com/about/.

 

You Have Done Enough for Today!

Rose bud

Journeying through the seasons of life, we often times cling tenaciously to what we know to be familiar. It is instructive if not chilling to note that in the floral shops the roses that do not open are referred to as bullets. They are discarded after a time if not purchased. These buds have turned in on themselves so tightly that they can never release their sweet fragrance…
Consider the unfinished aspects of your life that you have sealed away. Is now the time to nurture those areas into full bloom? If not, can you reconstruct new scaffolding in your life that will support your desires?

Let’s take a look at how you structure your daily life. Organization, does it exist in your life? Too much or too little can create an imbalance. Scheduling time for tasks and time for play is necessary to creating a life worth living. Taking time for you to BE You is an essential ingredient to tasting the sweet nectar life has to offer. Seriously it’s not an enjoyable life if you are living on auto-pilot.

The sweet fragrance and colour of life is found in our trials as well as our triumphant moments. Life as a tendency to reintroduce us, time and time again, to our unfinished work; as if to deliver a second, if not third chance to demonstrate what skills we have acquired. Our blossoming is a developmental process that unfolds along life’s journey. Therefore, when we are in greatest need, it is nearly impossible to view ourselves with compassion from the slit of a narrowed mind, tensed for battle.  Surrendering to the great mystery that lies before us requires us to widen our perspective.

AutumnReflections

Autumn inspires us to look to nature for its secrets of the cycles of life. A fresh, new perspective on life comes to fruition during this time. Broaden your focus as you rediscover your own self-perspective. Now, with compassion you may begin to relax your blooms as you begin to unfold your petals. Release your sweet fragrance!

Anna Martinson, life coach at Leap of Faith, assists others in discerning their soul’s longing to BE. For more information please contact Anna at http://leapoffaithlifecoaching.com/about/.

 

Grant Yourself Permission

Kindergarten child

“These are the things I learned (in Kindergarten):

1. Share everything.

2. Play fair.

3. Don’t hit people.

4. Put things back where you found them.

5. CLEAN UP YOUR OWN MESS.

6. Don’t take things that aren’t yours.

7. Say you’re SORRY when you HURT somebody.

8. Wash your hands before you eat.

9. Flush.

10. Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.

11. Live a balanced life – learn some and drink some and draw some and paint some and sing and dance and play and work everyday some.

12. Take a nap every afternoon.

13. When you go out into the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands, and stick together.

14. Be aware of wonder. Remember the little seed in the Stryrofoam cup: The roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that.

15. Goldfish and hamster and white mice and even the little seed in the Styrofoam cup – they all die. So do we.

16. And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books and the first workd you learned – the biggest word of all – LOOK.

― Robert Fulghum

All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten

 

Leap of faith

Do you remember when you were a young child in school and you had a permission slip that you needed to get signed so that you could go on the class field trip? Now take a moment and recall the feeling of wonder when the permission slip was signed and off you went on the class field trip. Grant yourself permission ~in this moment~ to be yourself. Relax, trust the process, slow down enough to be aware of wonder!

A basic tenant to living an authentic life, wonder is built on the foundation of self-esteem. This is a concept most of us learn about even before we tackle the ABC’s and the sum of 1 + 1. In kindergarten, or even earlier, we are taught that self-esteem is an important part of our becoming a future success. To begin to rediscover the wonder in your life, begin with paying closer attention to your thoughts and opinions. Your soul has a voice, a Divine Voice, and if you don’t pay attention, you might miss out on the advice of a lifetime. Whose advice? Yours of course!

Synonymous with self-respect, esteem requires holding yourself in a high regard. Being aware that you are an important piece of life’s great puzzle requires an understanding that you have a place in this world that cannot be filled by anyone. Self-respect is a concept we learned when we were too young to have real questions. The world around us taught us the dynamics of interpersonal interactions. We grew up equating a high self-esteem with being happy and focused. While these are two great byproducts of self-esteem, but they do not always have to go hand in hand.

Anna Martinson, life coach at Leap of Faith, assists others in discerning their soul’s longing to BE. For more information please contact Anna at http://leapoffaithlifecoaching.com/about/.

I am Feeling Overwhelmed!

What if the question is not why am I so infrequently the person I really want to be, but why do I so infrequently want to be the person I really am?

~Oriah Mountain Dreamer  The Dance

 Thrive

 

What if I told you, you are enough? There is nothing you must do or achieve to become more, just be in the moment. Step away from a life of overwhelm and into simply living with the idea that ‘You are enough.’ I am not asking you to take the easy way out of becoming but rather an acknowledgement of your essential true nature as a compassionate human being. The act if allowing this perception to take root creates an unfolding of your authentic true nature to spring forth.

 

Your definition of self essentially belongs to you. Anyone who claims to have the special ingredients that make up an authentic living is marketing to the very weaknesses that imprisoned your sense of self from the start. Overwhelm sets in when you feel you must meet requirements outside of your own definition of living. Instead, of fitting into someone else’s formula, consider your own belief system. True self-discernment is embedded in your individual perception. Within your control lies a choice to measure the cultural constraints in which you live by your own definition of self.

 

Defining yourself apart from the crowd is no easy journey; in fact many an inspiration has found its origin in breaking away from the norms of society. To move to the rhythms of your beat requires a leap of faith. When you choose to live in a manner that is consistent to your soul’s desire you rediscover that which you already knew as a child, “You are enough!” There is nothing you must do, nor requirements to fulfill. Taking a leap of faith is an invitation of discernment for your soul’s longing to BE.

 

Anna Martinson, life coach at Leap of Faith assists others in discerning their soul’s longing to BE. For more information please contact Anna at http://leapoffaithlifecoaching.com/about/.

 

 

The 90 Second Rule

When I first heard Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor say on the Oprah Show a few years back that if we allow ourselves to feel an emotion in our body, the emotion runs through our body in 90 seconds, I didn’t believe her!  (Jill Bolte Taylor is a Harvard-trained and published neuroanatomist and author of My Stroke Of Insight who experienced a severe hemorrhage in the left hemisphere of her brain in 1996.)

Fast forward a couple of years to Geneen Roth’s Women Food and God retreat in California.  Geneen repeatedly told our audience of over 200 women that we need to get in touch with our bodies and FEEL our emotions and that experiencing them in our body takes less than a couple of minutes. Again, I doubted the reality of this perspective. After all, I had gone through a painful divorce years ago which left me devastated for months, not just 90 seconds!

However, one day while at the retreat I was feeling a sadness that I couldn’t figure out with my rational thinking mind. I wrote about it, I did The Work (Byron Katie), I sent out a request to the universe to help me understand my sadness.  The sadness remained.  Finally, I decided to follow Geneen’s suggestion to just FEEL the emotion in my body without having to figure it out. I sat by a little waterfall and brought my attention to my internal body. I felt and saw a shape and color to my sadness, a dark grayish cloud shape as I recall. My gut felt raw, my heart ached, and I wanted to hunch over to protect my heart.

As I watched and experienced the sensations from my observing self, emotion rose and I cried, briefly. Then the shape and color of the sadness changed and moved out of my body. The tears and sadness ended. The body sensation of sadness had moved through and out of my body.  I felt at peace in 90 seconds!!!

Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor says, “When a person has a reaction to something in their environment, there’s a 90 second chemical process that happens in the body; after that, any remaining emotional response is just the person choosing to stay in that emotional loop. Something happens in the external world and chemicals are flushed through your body which puts it on full alert. For those chemicals to totally flush out of the body it takes less than 90 seconds.”

“We can all learn that we can take full responsibility for what thoughts we are thinking and what emotional circuitry we are feeling. Knowing this and acting on this can lead us into feeling a wonderful sense of well-being and peacefulness. Whether it is my fear circuitry or my anger circuitry or even my joy circuitry – it is really hard to hold a good belly laugh for more than 90 seconds naturally. The 90-second rule is totally empowering. That means for 90 seconds, I can watch this happen, I can feel this happen and I can watch it go away. After that, if I continue to feel that fear or feel that anger, I need to look at the thoughts I am thinking that are re-stimulating that circuitry that is resulting in me having this physiology over and over again.”

So many of my friends, family and life coaching clients tell me they are not sleeping well because they are “re-hashing” or “worrying” about someone or something in the middle of the night.  If the 90 Second Rule holds true, and I believe it does, what keeps us awake (or sad, angry, frustrated….) is our Story and not the actual feeling associated with the person or situation.

Are you running some of the same stories that cause you stress or upset? Would you like to share? How about sitting with the Feeling/Emotion to let it run its course through your body? Not enough time? (That’s often my excuse!) Take 90 Seconds for yourself!

Carrot Hummus

carrot hummus

 This carrot hummus recipe is quick, easy and delicious!  It’s especially wonderful when made with carrots fresh from the garden or Farmer’s Market! It’s super healthy, attractive, packed with protein and an excellent addition for a weight conscious diet.

Carrot Hummus

1 cup (packed) cooked carrots

1 can garbanzo beans (save liquid)

¼ cup tahini

2 Tbsp lemon juice (fresh is best)

2 garlic cloves, minced (I use 4)

½ tsp ground cumin

¼ tsp sea salt

2 Tbsp fresh parsley

 

Put all ingredients except parsley into food processor and blend until smooth. If consistency is too thick, thin with saved liquid from garbanzo beans. Add parsley and pulse a few times.

 

Refrigerate.

Prepare at least 2 hours before serving for flavors to blend.

Serve with chips or vegetable sticks.

Clean Plate Club

Clean Plate Club                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           I remember on the 4th day of Geneen Roth’s Women Food and God retreat, eating my lunch in silence. I had eaten half my lunch and was full/satisfied. Looking at my plate of food which would soon be dumped into the compost bin brought up so many old thoughts and feelings. I was brought up with the Clean Plate Club.  My parents and relatives would occasionally clap their hands when I had eaten all the food on my plate. I had to sit at the table until all the food on my plate was eaten.  Instead of leaning to trust my body as my fullness guide, I learned to use external signals, like a clean plate, to determine when I had had enough. Stopping eating when full was so foreign. To this day, sometimes I still feel a little twinge in my gut when I throw food away.  Occasionally I still hear the voice in my head that says, “Don’t be wasteful! Eat all the food on your plate. I had better eat this now because I might get hungry later?”  My response back to this voice is, “I’m not hungry. Throw it away or throw it in my body. Either way it’s waste.”

Imagine if we clapped our hands and praised our children when they stopped eating when they were full!  Imagine if we celebrated ourselves when we stopped eating when we were full!   I say, celebrate!

Whose Business Are You In?

What a relief!  This message brings to mind Byron Katie’s thoughts on Whose Business Are You In?  Here is what she has to say. (It’s definitely worth reading!)

Whose Business Are You In? (Byron Katie)

Notice when you hurt that you are mentally out of your business.

If you’re not sure, stop and ask, “Mentally, whose business am I in?”

There are only three kinds of business in the universe: mine, yours, and God’s.

Whose business is it if an earthquake happens? God’s business.

Whose business is it if your neighbor down the street has an ugly lawn? Your neighbor’s business.

Whose business is it if you are angry at your neighbor down the street because he has an ugly lawn? Your business.

Life is simple—it is internal.

Count, in five minute intervals, how many times you are in someone else’s business mentally. Notice when you give uninvited advice or offer your opinion about something (aloud or silently).

Ask yourself: “Am I in their business? Did they ask me for my advice?” And more importantly, “Can I take the advice I am offering and apply it to my life?”

When I am tempted to give unsolicited advice or when I am worried about what is happening in another person’s life, I ask myself, “Whose business am I in?” Most often it isn’t mine! I feel torn between the desire to share my wisdom (Ha!) to be of help while also acknowledging that it’s not my life or my business. If I am asked for advice, I may give it but I have found that giving advice that hasn’t been requested is typically met with resistance. I also discovered that when I give advice or share self-help materials without being asked, the message is, “You need fixing. I can help.”  This stems from my belief (that I haven’t shaken completely) that I Need Fixing, so I project that belief onto others. It damages relationships and sets us apart.  Stay in my own business. Heal my own life.  Respect others enough to do their own work.  Anna Martinson, Life Coach.

“When you think that someone or something other than yourself needs to change, you’re mentally out of your business.” Byron Katie

 

Museli – the Breakfast of Champions!

Museli is one of my favorite summer breakfast foods. I especially love it with fresh blueberries from the Farmer’s Market or with raspberries from my own garden. Yum!!! It’s really good any time of the day. This recipe makes quite a lot so I keep it in the refrigerator for a few days, eating daily this already prepared delicious breakfast. It’s also a good choice for anyone on a weight loss plan because it is low in calories, very healthy, and provides protein which is an important way to start your day along with fruit, dairy, and a good carb (rolled oats). Enjoy!

1 cup rolled oats

1 cup ground almonds

2 cups plain unsweetened yogurt (I use Greek yogurt)

3-4 grated apples

½ cup orange juice

Juice of 1 lemon

3-4 Tbsp milk or cream

Honey – to taste

1 tsp. cinnamon

Add any fresh fruit you desire.  (Blueberries are great!)

Mix all together except fresh fruit.

Let sit overnight for oats to absorb liquids and time for flavors to blend.

Stir in fresh fruit.

(Fresh granola sprinkled on top is also delicious!)